If I got over myself….I’d stop worrying what other people think of me….I’d stop worrying whether I’m good enough…
I’d be SO clear on my values, beliefs and what matters to me, and what I actually want to give to people – fashion beauty, my design vision, to inspire people, to motivate them, to comfort them, to give them understanding…
I’d have to ignore everything else that didn’t fit that. I would really see how everything else is holding me back from the person I want to be, from my dreams, my vision, when I’m not over myself.
How my self- doubt doesn’t serve me. How my fear sabotages me.
If I got over myself I’d stop worrying if I was good enough, I’d know the truth that I already am. I wouldn’t have to put on a front, to pretend, to act, that I belong, that everything’s okay….to impress when I don’t feel like I belong, when I feel I have to prove something to get what I want….
If I got over myself I’d have more fun, enjoyment, love, happiness, because I’d only be concerned about being me, doing what I need to do, being the best me.
If I got over myself I’d become more authentic, more magnetic, more charismatic, more attractive, more genuine, more HONEST.
I’d be the person dressed as a lobster at a posh fancy dress party who would have no choice but to have fun, and not give a f@£! what everyone else would think. I’d be the person who’d stand out, I’d be the person who’d attract only genuine people who see past the fitting in nonsense, the pretenses, the keeping up with kardashians type trends, who are attracted to who I uniquely am, not just because I’m pretty enough, stylish enough, nice enough, agreeable, fun enough.
I’d be less selfish, I’d be less self-obsessed I’d stop NOT showing up because I don’t feel pretty enough, fashionable enough, good enough, capable enough, interesting enough, loud enough.
I would stop being the person that doesn’t feel worthy enough to believe that I can be the person that helps people, the person that people would love to buy from, the person that would have people loving to read my long ramblings, the person that inspires, motivates others, the person that understands others on a deeper level, ….the person that someone would NEED to work with because they recognise something inside me that would help them so deeply. I’d believe I’m the person that people go to because they know I give them such valuable helpful advice, I’m the person that makes others feel better. I’m the person who can earn all the money in the world I dream of from being this person. I can be the person who has so many followers who can’t wait to see what I have to say, and post today, because it lights something up inside them, because they want it for themselves too, they want to follow and BE a part of my vision!! I can be the person who can have my dream lifestyle, who can travel the world in exactly the way I desire, be the person who has my dream relationship, who can be so in love with someone who is good enough, who lights me up on a deep deep level. I can be the person who is stylish and glamorous and feels good!
I would stop worrying whether I’m good enough for ALL of this and just BE this. If I got over myself I’d realise my worrying isn’t doing ME or ANYONE any favours….
I’d stop telling myself who am I to help them. That would become soooo irrelevant when i’m over myself!
Because i’m here to help in the way that I CAN right now, I’m here to design stuff for people to wear in the way that I can right now, by being me, and giving my all, my best right NOW! Because that’s all I can do, so why wouldn’t it be good enough, why would I expect any MORE of myself when anymore is impossible right now, this second, when all that matters and is real is right now?
So I am someone who can help others. I’m someone who can design fashion. And I’m better than nothing, I’m better than no help, not showing up.
In fact….I’ll be EVEN BETTER when I’m over myself, and stop wasting energy on the thinking and worrying and negative thoughts that go into just thinking I’m not good enough. That’s how I can be better. When I’m over myself and not worrying if I’ve done enough, or said enough.
When I’m over myself I’m already better for just showing up as I am right now with 100% positive, genuine energy.
I’d stop lying because I’m too scared to say what I really think, when I’m over myself I can say the truth genuinely in a way that doesn’t hurt people’s feelings because my ego is removed. I wouldn’t feel the discomfort that comes from not saying what i really think, and and the ingenuity with my heart
If I got over myself I’d feel much more happier for other people’s successes because I realise I can have them also…when I get out of my own way! Because envy and jealousy comes from not feeling good enough for all that we want….and from the belief in lack that we can’t have that too…and because we’re just too much in our own way…
If I got over myself I’d have to really realise who am I to not be good enough to get what I want. Who am I to be here, to feel awkward and so self conscious of who I am?! I’d just get on with life with no barriers holding me back. I’d experience more and live more
If I were to get out of my own way I wouldn’t be sat here hiding, waiting, preparing, planning my life. I’d realise life is NOW. I’d realise THIS right now is my life. It’s ONLY my life and I’d make right here right now count. I’d give it my ALL. Because this is JUST my life after all. And I’ve been giving too many f$£@s. I’ve not been over myself. I’ve been all about myself. I’ve been all in my way, worrying, fearing, hiding, giving half heartedly.
I’ve been too busy worrying whether people will think I’m okay, good enough, worthy enough, pretty enough, beautiful enough, interesting enough, stylish enough, right enough, perfect enough.
I’ve been too busy thinking they think I’m mad, crazy, mental, weird, abnormal, the black sheep, selfish, not good enough, so crap beyond belief that it will make the gossip of the century!
I’ve been too busy thinking they’ll think I’m an impostor! That I’ll be the laughing stock of my friends and family….of the WORLD!
That the life police are gonna call me out on my bullshit, my not good enough! And tell me to sit back down, to be quiet, to hide, and just be so no one notices me, so I don’t bore anyone, so I don’t get anyone’s attention. So I don’t take anyones time, or mental capacity, or energy!
If I got over myself I’d stop basing my life on these life police telling me I can’t be that person I dream of….I’d stop believing in some life association board who tells me I don’t make the cut to my dreams…
If I got over myself I’d stop APOLOGISING for my existence
If I got over myself I’d stop feeling SORRY! I’d stop saying sorry a million times a day! for NO reason!
If I got over myself I’d realise I’m NO MORE OR NO LESS than each of the BILLIONS of people on this earth!
So who am I to worry? Who am I to label myself as less worthy, less good enough, than not just ONE but BILLIONS of people?! Surely I am someone, and can be someone just as that person IS someone already?!
Who am I to worry about standing up and creating some noise. For people to notice me, to hear me, to feel like I’d be bothering all these billions of people for just being who I truly am?
I’m no better no worse than those billions and I’m here, I’m alive. That makes me worthy to show up exactly as I feel like.
I can say what I feel needs to be said. I can be seen as much as I want to be seen. I can claim to be whoever I want to be in whatever way I want to be.
I’m no more or less than the others, I am what I believe myself to be.
If I got over myself I wouldn’t worry about making a fool of myself. I wouldn’t worry about my flaws, my imperfections.
I’d focus on my gifts, my values, my worth, what I have to offer right here right now, not in the future, not preparing myself to give later when I’m good enough. I’d be giving NOW. Because I ONLY see my value and worth. When I’m over myself. I don’t focus on my lack, my weaknesses, my imperfectness.
When I’m over myself I don’t self sabotage because my ego doesn’t come into the equation.
When I’m over myself I attract more meaningful things, friends, soul mates, opportunities.
I’d promote myself more. I’d approach people knowing I’m worthy. I’d approach all the opportunities I want from a perspective of what value I bring and I see the equal value in them, no more or no less, no pedestals, no greater person, we’re all one and the same. I wouldn’t have to fight to get a foot in the door, my lucky break, to beg, to chase, to be seen….
I’d just go straight for what I want with ease and elegance, because my faith in myself, my value, my authentic desires carry me forward to my goals, the doors I want to get into…
I wouldn’t wait for when it’s right, when it feels good enough, when I have enough experience, when I’ve worked my way up, when I’ve proved myself.
I’d be holding and planning my idea for my Peace Passion Paradise retreats in Bali…right now. I’d be selling my products now without a website, I’d be growing my fb followers, my website would be promoted massively to be SEEN by MILLIONS. I wouldn’t be waiting for pretty photos of my fashion, of myself to post on social media. I wouldn’t be waiting to be older, to have more life experience, to feel confident helping people. I wouldn’t wait to have my work published or receive press that is flashy and noteworthy to feel like a genuine writer or fashion designer, to feel worthy or able to design clothes people would love to wear or write words that people would love to write. I wouldn’t wait for my clothes to be worn by the it celebrity or to be in Vogue before I consider myself a worthy fashion designer. I wouldn’t wait for my words to be bestsellers before I consider myself a worthy writer….I wouldn’t wait til I’m older to consider myself worthy of coaching, helping others.
I wouldn’t wait to be showing up on facebook and sharing my words, my work until everything is ‘ready’ and perfect in a box. I would give all the value I have now without expecting to get customers, followers, because its what I say I love doing so why would I wait to do and share what I love until I’m good enough, until there is a better time?!
I wouldn’t wait to see how it pans out abroad to decide my plans. I know my desires. I want to be abroad, travelling for a good year or more, living and working location free. So thats what I’ going to do. If I got over myself I don’t need to see if it will work. I know it will work if others can make it work, if I want it to work. If I got over myself I’d be able to tell my friends freely, openly the details of what I’m doing without fearing what they’ll think of me.
If I got over myself I’d make my website, my social media presence so in your face because I feel worthy enough to be seen, because I need to be seen for people to find me to get my value, to carry out my dreams. For I recognise my value and there are people out there who need my value, who would LOVE to wear my designs, who I’d make happy just to be wearing my designs, who my words would mean something to on a massive scale. I could be motivating, comforting, giving hope to someone like me who was also inspired, motivated, lit up and comforted by someone’s words and designs….I’m being selfish to the people like me when I realise how much value I needed from others, and still need, so why aren’t I good enough to give back to others also?
If I don’t get myself out there because I’m too worried I’m not good enough, I’m not perfect, it’s not ready, then i’m not living my dreams, my goals, my vision. There’s no purpose to me designing unless I’m prepared to be the lighthouse beacon where everyone can SEE my designs and SEE my words, and SEE me. They can find me, my facebook group, my work, and I can continue giving them my worth, my value. After all that’s what I dream about…so why am I hiding, why aren’t I prepared to be noticed to be seen, to be the lighthouse, not a submarine in a big ocean…?
Why wouldn’t I get over myself?!
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