“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.”
― Mandy Hale
As cheesy as it sounds it’s true…. Don’t wait for love to receive love, BE the Love now and love will quickly find you. Love exists already in you. Connect internally with yourself to find the walls you put up inside yourself to experiencing love now. When you are waiting for love, you will attract people that will mirror those waiting thoughts and keep you with ‘waiting’ scenarios (you might date a guy in the belief it will get better when….or it will get better when he commits to me… etc), or guys who are really unavailable for real love!
“Well, I’ll say it again, ’cause I can’t say it enough- that waiting for Mr. Right is gonna keep your life and happiness on hold as long as it exists.” -Regena Thomashauer
Visualize being in your dream relationship and get crystal clear about what it is you specifically want. What is it going to be like in your dream relationship? Write it down in your diary and journal to get into the mindset of being in that relationship with the love that you want. The more specific you are, the more you can attract exactly what you want! The only way you’re going to get the relationship you want is if you are the person you envisage yourself being in that dream relationship!
Be the person you want to date now. You will attract someone who mirrors your thoughts! Think and be the qualities of the person you want to attract into your life, and give yourself what you want first before finding it in someone else.
“Don’t date the captain of the football team; be the captain of the football team” – Courtney Love
If you want someone successful, consider your own success. What does success mean to you? Like attracts like….if you simply just start working on your personal success and what that looks like for you then you’re more likely to attract someone into your life who mirrors your thoughts, goals and actions around what success means for you.
Sometimes what we want in a guy, we want in our self and we place the need onto the other person in a relationship to fill a void of what’s missing in our life. Fill it by providing that quality for yourself, so the person you attract into your life mirrors what you are also striving towards. This also then allows you to show up more fulfilled, confident and happier in relationships when we have provided and given our self what we see as missing, we won’t be as fulfilled if we just seek what’s missing in a guy.
“A relationship is not meant to be the joining at the hip of two emotional invalids. The purpose of a relationship is not for two incomplete people to become one, but rather for two complete people to join together” – Marianne Williamson
If you want to change Who you’re attracting then change your thoughts. The simplest way to do this is to start loving and accepting every single part of you now. When you thoroughly love yourself as you are right now, you will attract people who thoroughly love you too instead of someone who mirrors your self–criticizing thoughts and will reflectively end up criticizing you or act in a way that you find negative/hurtful towards you!
“What you feel about another person, what you think or say about another person, what you do to another person – you do to you. Give judgment and criticism and you give it to yourself. Give love and appreciation to another person or anything, and you give it to yourself.” ― Rhonda Byrne