If you’re a Sex and the City type of girl then you’re deffo on the same page as me and I’ve written this Free eBook for you!!
I was recently introduced to the art and industry of Matchmaking and got the opportunity to immerse myself into the matchmaking and dating industry last year by working with one of London’s best Matchmakers and hanging out with some of the world’s top Matchmakers and Dating Coaches from New York’s Matchmaking Institute, all as a result of becoming obsessed with watching Millionaire Matchmaker last summer! ….This led me on a very exciting journey into the professional world of love and dating!
I discovered Matchmaking to be an amazing career and industry to be a part of… matchmakers are literally able to transform people’s lives by giving them the gift of LOVE and happiness of having someone special in their life….especially for those who have lost confidence in themselves in dating! And I was just super interested in learning more about matchmaking as I was living in London and enjoying dating, and wondering who was the right guy for me! …As a Libra I love to be in Love and am naturally passionate about anything to do with love and dating, I love talking about relationships and giving my girlfriends advice so I was super curious to learn and find out about this mysterious industry and what makes a perfect match, who would be the right guy for me and how could I find him?! and just good old advice on how to approach dating, and the EXPERT opinion on my dating style and any patterns that needed breaking….! …I would have loved to hear Patti’s personal take on my love life, and what type of guy would make the perfect match for me!!
I want to share all that I’ve learnt about the science behind love, dating, and its dramas, that I only wish I’d learnt earlier, to those who also want to meet their dream match, and have their dream relationship but want to learn how to make better choices for themselves, and to successfully match-make their own love life!
On a completely different note I also felt inspired to write this after experiencing my parents divorcing! Even though I was 26 and experienced their relationship growing up, I could never have imagined how life shattering (without death) a divorce could feel to anyone or me – I literally felt like I had been living in a life ‘bubble’ that had been burst… suddenly seeing every inch of my parents relationship and drama out in the open rather than previously seeing but not really seeing, was shocking and eye opening….to feel torn apart by the sense of deep sadness it caused was depressing, to be drawn into the guilt of seeing who you care for suffer the drama and toxicness of just what was a bad relationship dynamic…was downright confusing! And is why I strongly believe in being educated in relationships and knowing you are worthy and capable of having the relationship of your dreams! So you can actually believe in good, healthy relationships and know what they look like and not settle for anything less!! Because I think so many of us do settle and don’t actually know how amazing a relationship they can have and deserve and what that can look like!
I had a *challenging* relationship with my Dad which got much worse by the divorce and I always seemed to end up attracting similar types of situations with guys to the problems I experienced with my Dad whenever I dated….which made me feel like I was really destined to be doomed with men! Like it wasn’t part of my destiny to be happy in love or I would never be able to have or feel deserving of something beautiful and meaningful that just flowed easily without toxic drama and abusive dynamics! Whenever anything came close it felt *too good to be true*! I became massively interested and determined to find out more about what makes a good match and relationship, the psychology around healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics and the mindset needed to attract my dream relationship!
I have learned…to not lose hope and belief in feeling fully deserving of amazing relationships that feel aligned to your heart and who you are, to know that there is someone out there that is so good and right for you and can give you exactly what you need and want even when you think you’re the doomed ‘misfit’, unlovable or have to compromise…., instead of feeling ripped apart by toxicness and relationships that just sooo aren’t in alignment to your soul and believing you have to be a certain type of person or be a certain way to be loved the way you want!
I’ve come to appreciate and really see how beliefs on self-worth and feeling fully deserving play a massive part in the happiness of our relationships so I would like to inspire belief to any girl who needs it that you are fully deserving and capable to have the relationships you dream of, no matter who you are, what your background is, no matter how far away and unlikely your dream relationship feels!
You deserve to have your dream love life and you can create it to be the best it can be!